Happy Mother’s Day to all the Mom’s and Grandma’s out there. Any skill I have at being a mother comes directly from the amazing example that has been set for me by my Mom, Grandma and Mother-In-Law. I also rely heavily on my “Mom Village,” the group of women who I have met over my 12 years (gasp!) of being a Mom.
I met these first group of women when #1 was only 6 weeks old. To say I was struggling was an understatement. At 28 years old – my husband and I were the first in our group of friends and family to have a kid. My mom stayed with me the first week when my son was born. Then my mother-in-law helped out. My husband stayed home for a bit – but he had to go back to work. I remember so clearly the first day Jerald went back to work. I was paralyzed with fear, loneliness and a bit of postpartum depression. I held my little baby and cried. I didn’t know how to fill the day – meeting both of our needs.
At 6 weeks old #1 was old enough to start a new Mom’s class. There I met the first members of my “Mom Village.” We all had 6 week old babies who were our first babies – and none of us knew what to do! We relied on each other and the amazing instructor for support, encouragement, tips and lots of laughs. After each class we would hang around and go out for lunch. I was finally brave enough to stay out of the house with my baby for longer than 2 hours. If he needed a new diaper and changed him and if he was hungry I breastfeed at the table. These women gave me permission to be out in the world taking care of my baby and still living my life! We also started meeting regularly on thursdays at each other’s houses for more support and playtime. Through each new parenting or kid phase we had each other. Some of these women are still in my life – we all texted each other to wish each other another Happy Mother’s Day. The picture is from our “graduation” at 12 weeks from our first class. We took many more wonderful classes together through the years.
As my baby got older and I added two more boys to my family – I still added to my “Mom Village.” I gathered these Mom’s from pre-school classes, from the gym, from our Temple, and from their elementary school. I am also lucky to be able to add to my “Mom Village” friends from growing up, college, and law school who have had children and have stayed a strong presence in my life. My “Mom Village” is also made up of my three amazing sister-in-laws, my mother and my mother-in-law. All of these amazing women enrich my life and make me feel that I can tackle each new parenting step.
I wish all of them a very Happy Mother’s Day – I couldn’t do it without you all and I wouldn’t want to!!!